More Decision - Circumcision

Here is a controversial topic and sent my family and friends into overdrive.  Now I am not into FGM, I believe in making the right choice for your child.  I have a son, however we had people giving the argument that this would mean we would do the same for a girl.  So to set the record straight, that would be a no.  male and female procedure are very different cases.  I do not believe there are any health benefits to the female procedure.

Male circumcision, is something very different.  There are a lot of pro and cons for this procedure.  Personally I think more pro than con really.  However I know this can erupt into a very heated argument.  Now, my hubby comes from a 'only if necessary' and I came from 'it is just done' family.  My hubby is done, but was circumcised later in life because of issues, and from what I hear same for one of his brothers for the same issue and last was done as a baby.  Now I hear the later in life hurts a lot and really is something that was not a good experience for my hubby.

So, with this information and the pro and cons and family history, we decided for the procedure.  I do think the penis does look better, however this should not be your only reason.  Parents of little boys will also tell you it is easy for cleaning purposes as well.

I have attached a link about male circumcision here from the World Health Organisation with the idea that on this you do need to make your own decision.  Whatever you decide, feel good in the fact you have made an informed decision.

If you decide too do this you have to find a doctor who is willing to perform the procedure.  Doctors have their own personal say on the matter.  I will say ensure you have this conversation prior to baby being born to save the argument.

We were lucky to find a doctor who was like us well informed of the pros and cons.  He allowed us to make this decision and understood it was also based on both our family history.

All I can suggest for this subject is to make this choice between you and your partner and no one else.

New Baby - Hospital

So I have a new little man who gave us the scare of our lives.  8pound 8 ounces or 4kg and 55cm long with a 37cm wide head.  (The average length is 46cm - 50cm) ohhhh he's so small.  I am not allowed to go anywhere because of the Caesarean.  I was jealous, all the ladies who had a natural birth are walking around a few hours later, I cannot go anywhere.  I am stuck in bed for 24 - 48 hours.  No dignity left.  The nurse changes you, and brings you bub, because I am so groggy.

I must say I am personally not a fan of the caesarean, however I know this is such a personal choice.  Mine was made for me for this little man.  The funny thing was it took at while for me to recognise that the crib next to my bed was mine.  I kept looking and thinking this is weird.  I am told this is normal and that it is easier for mum's to be attached to baby after a natural birth.  I must admit it did take a while for me to connect.  Thankfully I did, and am blessed.

Decisions, name and filling in the paperwork.  yuck still a little groggy, hubby is helping.  note to new mum's make sure husband spells name right.  We had to ask for new paperwork.

Hopefully not as groggy tomorrow and will make more sense tomorrow

Monday and 38 weeks

Oh god, Hubby is at work and I am BORED!!!! ahhhhhhh

So I clean, watch Oprah, ok still bored, have an appointment and have to wait for my hubby because I cannot fit behind the steering wheel of the car and reach the peddles.  I take out meat for dinner, mmmmm pasta sounds good I prepare the meal, you know cut up onion and carrot, etc for  later... ok still bored.

I take the dog to the park to throw the ball for him, this is nice I think, I look at my watch and decide that I would duck walk back home, dear god cannot believe I am duck walking is all I am thinking.

The appointments are still a little invasive however I am getting use to them though not comfortable.  I have a shower get change so I don't smell like dog.

Hubby pulls up and off we go...

Doctors office:

Hi and how are you feeling today?

mmmm I good doctor little tight feeling here, the little bugger won't put his foot down.

ok hop on the bed and lets have a look and see how everything is going.


Ummmm you are about 5 cm Dilated.

oh ok is that it can I go home?  (you may note I had no idea)

No, what we might do is if you go up to the hospital and that will just make sure all is ok.

Is it ok?

Yes, fine, just head up there anyway.  I will come and check on you in about 45 mins.

At the hospital...

Nurse put a belt contraption thing around my huge belly, with 2 sensors.  The machine suddenly shows numbers on the two separate screens.

I notice my belly is moving around a lot at this stage.

I asked the nurse what does this number mean?

That's your baby heartbeat

Oh... What this number?

They are your contractions...

huh? (looking confuse right now)

Contractions... ( the nurse notices that I have no idea)

But they could be Braxton hicks.

Oh ok (nurse looks at the read out)

I will call the doctor up

Is everything ok


.................... 11/2  hours passes, and hormones really kick in....................

Hubby, I want to go home, The doctor sad he would be 45 mins not an hour and a half.  I have meat on the sink and I have to cook dinner, come on lets go.

Honey we should stay, (he knows by the way) the doctor shouldn't be to much longer.

Hubby (Growling now) I want to go.  I don't want to be here, and I am hungry can you get me a sandwich?

Well you better not just in case

Just in case what ( really growling and wanting to kill people)

I'll just check what the hold up is ok

ok honey (being nice now - Mood changes where weird and I remember this like yesterday)

....................................2 1/2 hours...............................

Doctor walks in with looks at the read out and states....

This baby needs to come out now, the baby is in distressed

(My weird reply) That's not my birth plan....

The baby is in distress and this may not be good, we need to do a Caesarean section

But that is not my birth plan (and tears)

Hubby that's not my birth plan

Honey, you need to listen to the doctor

(extra people walk into the room)

Doctor:  This is ..... he is an anaesthesiologist, he  is going to give you a spinal block, you will feel movement but no pain


Hubby: Honey please listen to the doctor

ok ( I start to shake uncontrollable - I think I was scared but not sure)

My hubby hold my hands to hold me still so the anaesthesiologist can do his job

ok done

I am wheeled into theatre and the doctor is talking about how well I am doing.  The sheet goes up and 10 mins later

Baby held above the sheet,  It a boy and he is taken away, not a sound and all is quiet.

paediatrician now has my little boy and 2 minutes pass, the longest 2 mins of my life as they work on my little boy.  I was terrified and crying, My husband was awesome just reassuring me the whole time.


Best sound in the world, they put him on my belly and he goes quiet, he's perfect, I was so overcome I just sob, 6.55pm on the 8 sep my little man is born at 37 weeks and 5 days

The Start of Maternity Leave - 37 weeks 2 days

Ok it is Saturday, and all I can think about is how bored I will be on Monday.  Sad really.  Anyway, I decided to cook up a few meals to cover the first couple of weeks for hubby and I and we also had a few friends do this for us as well to freeze.  I highly recommend this, as a new baby in the house turns everything upside down for the first few weeks whilst you adjust.

Luckily my hubby landed a temp job that he was able to do with his back, and they knew about the fact he was about to become a new father and was excited for him, they even allowed him time off to attend appointments with me which was nice of them from 35 weeks your appointments become weekly, mine were every Monday.

I put together the cot with the help of my hubby (much to his frustration) however, I was determined to help, I now know crazy, however hormones make you invincible, and you can do anything.  I also assisted with the change table and decided whilst my hubby was not home to check out some colours of paint... He was so not impressed.  The reason I did not do this behind a door or anything normal, smack bang in the middle of the wall, I will blame hormones again, but I just don't know if I will get away with this.

So I have had a busy weekend, now by this time you will get very tired.  I went for walks with the dog, not sure if you would call it walking, I think more likely a shuffle, I was huge.

I was determined not to waddle and waddle I did not until 37 weeks.... ahhhhhh duck walk.

So my only suggestion is try to relax, if you are like me and cannot for the life of you sit still, cook. 

Decisions about work

Okay for me personally I think this was one of the hardest decisions I had to make.  I decided to work until 38 weeks which was a Wednesday for me.  So I decided to finish the Friday before.  My husband and I decided to save as much as possible which was hard when you need to buy things for the new arrival.  Here's a tip, I brought second hand.

A cot, change table high chair, as I figured this could be cleaned, I only brought mattress for the cot and a pram brand new because that is material.  Where I could go second hand I did, save a lot of money doing this.

Anyway, I decided that I would take a little over 6 months off, now to explain, I was brought up with mum at home with kids type thing.  I struggled with this decision, as our personal goal was to do exactly that.  The problem, my hubby injured his back and badly and someone has to work.  This was before our government helping with Maternity leave, luckily our work place assisted by paying for 3 months which really helped.

I just want you to know that your decision regardless of what it is, is yours and your family to make.  My preference was to be a stay at home mum, however life changed that and I did need to go to work.

Don't let people make this decision for you and there are a lot of detractors who will say things like daycare is terrible, it is cheaper, whatever.  Your choice is your choice.  My choice due to the circumstance was that after 6 months I would go back to work and my child would be in daycare 4 days a week.  I must admit I hated this idea, however, I put this to the back of my mind, and decided to see how we go, I mean that baby hasn't even been born yet.

I mean we still have to arrange a room for our new addition.  Girls a good note, get your guys to pick the pram if you are short, otherwise they will never help you push it...